The Bridges

Often when we are not feeling very good -

We try and fight or fix the emotion by thinking our way out of it.

The harder we try the more we become stuck focused on how bad we feel.

Sometimes we also compare how we feel with how we want to feel and the focusing on the difference makes us feel worse.

Neither of these work.

So what can we do?

One attitude we can adopt is acceptance as in Mindfulness.

A mindful attitude is a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.

This does not mean passively accepting…….

No, accepting means:

allowing the feelings and thoughts to be there without judging them

knowing that they will pass in time.

feelings, sensations, thoughts are like the weather – they come and go

Know that by accepting your present feelings, they will pass more quickly.

Become aware of your thoughts without attaching to them.

Have you ever battled to go to sleep and been unable to....but as soon as you have said ‘Ok, I’ll sleep when I’m ready’ the battling stops and you fall asleep.

Sometimes the harder you try the worse you feel....but when you accept, you allow your emotions and thoughts to just be, and you feel better.