This is a really important idea, especially with regard to problems.
There is a huge difference between when we say
I am...…….and.........I have....
Let's look at an example and compare.
I am a worrier
I have times when I worry
I am a worrier suggests that you are like that all of the time because it is who you are as a person.
I have times when I worry is acknowledging that worry is a state which comes and goes. This is much more empowering.
I have gives you perspective. It enables you to see a problem as an emotional state, a habit or an unhealthy behaviour.
Be careful what label you give yourself, especially with regard to problems.
I have made a mistake is a behaviour that can be changed.
I am a failure is at the very core of who you are and do, and will affect everything that you do.
I am an anxiety sufferer suggests that your anxiety is permanent and will be difficult to change.
I have anxiety or I have anxiety sometimes, makes it much easier to overcome.
Whenever you say I am, always make it something empowering.
I am a lifelong learner
I am a nature lover
I am a problem solver
It is easier to change or let go of something that you have such as an emotional state, a habits or an unhealthy behaviour.
It is much more difficult to change something you are - I am a...….
Remember to say or think -
with regard to problems - I have a problem habit or unhealthy behaviour.
with regard to who you are - I am a ( positive ) person.